I don’t have all the answers

I don't have all the answers

I’m about to sit on the couch and I see a piece of pizza stuck in the corner. My dog put it there, burying it, in hopes that when the shit hits the fan, she’ll have a piece of pizza to eat.

Yeah, instinct. As absurd as that sounds, it’s a damn good instinct to have. Eat a bone now and bury another one for later.

What does that have to do with our human lives? Well, think about it. Eat a bone now, and bury another one for later.

Of course I threw the piece of pizza out when she wasn’t looking. I didn’t want to deal with picking up a piece of penicillin pizza a week from now. Dogs don’t understand germ theory. So burying a piece of pizza for later when you’ve already had enough to eat now makes perfect sense.

Half the time though, she completely forgets where she buries her bones. (In this case, a piece of pizza, but we also give her steak bones all the time).

In the game of life…

…I’m always trying to learn something new. Sometimes, I’ll watch animals. Sometimes, I’ll watch clever people, mimicking clever things they did.

I try not to mimic what stupid people do. I’ve done enough stupid things on my own already without adding other people’s stupid shit to my stupid pile.

I don’t claim to have all the answers. I know what I’m good at. If I’m not good at something, I try to pass it off to someone else.

Doing taxes? I have an accountant for that.

Several years ago, I paid a nutritionist to customize a diet for me. I had two personal trainers who showed me how to properly deadlift and squat. I had them for half a year. Expensive, but long-term worth every penny. I’m in phenomenal shape now, especially for someone my age. I do circles around most people literally half my age.

Over the past five years, I’ve gotten quite good at orchestration. I learned that by first reading Walter Piston’s book called Orchestration. It was what the local library had. I read it twice.

He’s a (now dead) Harvard Professor of Music and composer himself. He composed more in the modern style. I don’t like his works. However as a teacher, he was fantastic.

What does this mean to you? It’s just an example. If you want to get good at something, emulate someone better than you at that thing.

I don’t have all the answers

I don’t have all the answers. I’m not one of those guys who claims he knows everything. People who know me actually think I’m humble.

Why? Because, I find out what you’re better than me at. Then I ask appropriate questions.

You’ll find this is a very effective way of communicating. You make others feel smart. You make others feel that their voice is appreciated. Then, they actually listen to what you have to say.

The other thing is, if you really want to grow as a human being, it’s best to not know everything.

I never claimed to be the best guitarist in the world. Nor do I even claim to be a decent artist. I’m still an art student. When I give advice about anything, I’m honest about what level I’m at.

For instance, if you want to make a million over a twenty year span, I’m your guy. If you want to make $10 million in 5 years, I can’t offer you that advice because I haven’t done it.

The same goes for health. I’m fit, and considerably stronger than the average person. But I’m no underwear model. If you want to be healthy, ask me questions. If you want to be a professional model, ask someone else.

I do believe that my relationship advice is quite sound though since I’ve been with the same girl forever. How to meet women though? Things have changed so much since I got married.

Just consistently work towards your goals

I don’t have a set timeline for anything. However, I have a pretty good work ethic. When it came to making money, I consistently put money into stocks, flipped houses, and refrained from spending money in stupid shit.

If I were young, I’d be studying crypto-currencies. I think you can make a lot of money fast that way. But I’m old and now more into making art than money so my time priorities have changed.

I drove Saturns because I have no need to impress the neighbors. We did spend the rest though. I don’t believe in hoarding wealth. I believe that money is just a tool to make your life better.

The same goes for music. I study music and compose music based on 19th century Romanticism. That’s the music I like to hear so that’s the music I compose.

Same goes for art. Right now, my stuff is more “pop art.” But it’s all practice. I’m going to get really good at my style until I could actually do something more in the Pre-Raphaelite style. I simply create the art I want to see.

What do you want out of life? Are you working towards your goals on a daily basis? If not, why aren’t you?


Roman is an artist, composer, writer, and travel junkie.

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