We’re supposed to grow

we're supposed to grow

As people, we’re supposed to grow. I sincerely hope you weren’t exactly the same person you were when you were four years old.

I’ve grown a lot. A lot of it came from maturity. And admitting I was wrong, so I could change and evolve.

It’s funny. The older I get, the more I realize how much I don’t know. I’d much rather get information from someone else than look it up myself. If I could pay someone else to do something for me, I’ll do that. That’s not laziness. It’s maturity.

I’d much rather focus on what I’m good at. And especially focus on my goals.

I love to cook, and this seems weird, but I’ll always be the one to do the dishes. I don’t necessarily enjoy doing the dishes. However, when I finish them and get the dishwasher going, I feel a big wave of accomplishment. I’ve done something productive.

Your ideas evolve

There’s an old saying that if you’re a conservative in your twenties, you have no heart. And if you’re a liberal in your thirties, you have no brains.

Not knocking anyone and of course not trying to push my politics on anyone else. But I like that saying since it shows that people change, including their political beliefs.

I’m so far away from my idealistic 20s that I’d totally make fun of myself back then. I was idealistic, and had no idea how the real world worked. Yet, I thought I had the answers.

That’s the problem there. When you think you have all the answers, you’re not going to grow.

I really hate the term “open minded” because everyone I know who uses it uses it wrong. When they use it, what they really mean is “you’re only open minded if you agree with me.” That’s about as narrow-minded as one could get.

Let’s talk about growth

Let’s say you want to get good at something. For argument’s sake, let’s say cooking.

Imagine if you thought you were the best chef in the world and you knew everything. Could you improve?

Now imagine if you saw yourself as a cooking student, and allowed yourself a budget to travel to various kitchens around the world. You listened carefully to what the hosting chefs told you, and you selected the best ideas from everyone.

Who’s place would you rather eat at? I know, I’d rather eat at the second person’s. They’re simply going to get better and better.

That applies for everything. Knowledge is great. But the best way to acquire knowledge is to continually say “I don’t know. Let’s find out.”

People who know everything aren’t going to grow, since obviously, they already know everything.

We’re supposed to grow

We’re supposed to grow throughout our lives. There’s that famous poem where the old man dies because he no longer wants to know what’s on the other side of the mountain. It’s not to be taken literally. It’s a metaphor.

Are you growing? Or are you staying stagnant?

What do you want to improve? Think carefully about that question. Consider what you want to improve, and see if you can find a person or a resource who knows more about it than you do. And approach it with an open mind.


Roman is an artist, composer, writer, and travel junkie.

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