When you try to please everyone, you lose yourself

I don't try to please everyone

Don’t try to please everyone. Just don’t do it. Be yourself, not who everyone else wants you to be.

When you try to please everyone, you’ll not only lose yourself. You’ll also become resentful after you’ve lost yourself.

I’ve seen this happen so many times in my life. I’ve worked in a retirement home so I’ve seen the long-term effects of someone who tried to please everyone. Believe me, they’re pretty fucking miserable!

The artist who will try to please everyone

You’ll see it in art. You’ll see the artist who takes too much advice from other people, to the point where instead of creating art from his heart, he’s trying to win everyone else over. The art (also applies to music, writing, etc) is forced. Or, we can say “fake.”

He becomes a phony, a shell of what he once was. And you know what? His original fans won’t be returning any time soon.

Sometimes you have to do what’s best for you rather than being a doormat and doing what’s best for everyone else. Especially as an artist.

As I’ve said for the artist – too many cooks spoils the art.


So let’s go back to the retirement home. You’ll see two extremes. One old man looks back fondly at his life, having accomplished X, Y, and Z. His kids love him. His grandkids adore him.

Then there’s the other old man who tried to please everyone. He’s nothing but a shell of a man. He’s resentful and bitter, having wasted his entire life trying to win people over instead of being himself. Sadly, his kids don’t respect him. And they don’t visit. He has no relationship at all with his grandkids.

I’ve seen this first hand and I’ve seen quite a few examples of each. Stand your ground. Be yourself. You are the person you were made to be, not someone else.


Roman is an artist, composer, writer, and travel junkie.

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