There’s always someone better than you

You may be an absolutely awesome person. You may be a complete loser. Or, you may be somewhere in between.

Regardless, there’s always someone better than you. Even among record breakers, records don’t last forever. In my lifetime, I’ve seen Wayne Gretsky break most of the hockey records. Jerry Rice broke most of the football records. Michael Jordan broke a lot of basketball records. Barry Bonds broke Hank Aaron’s record, but now they’re saying it’s because of steroids so it’s with an asterisk.

I’ve also seen fighters dominate, then lose. I remember when Royce Gracie was the shit. How long did that last?

pick their brains

Now, keep in mind, these are the best of the best. Remember when Terry Bradshaw and Joe Montana shared the record for most Super Bowl wins for a quarterback? We saw Tom Brady break that record earlier this year.

Brett Favre owned pretty much every passing record. For awhile, Fran Tarkenton had them. Then Dan Marino broke them all. Now Peyton Manning has them. Drew Brees should break all of Payton Manning’s records soon.

Like I say, records fall. There’s always someone better than you.

Always someone better? Don’t get discouraged

Now, I strongly believe that’s not such a bad thing. I’m an awesome guitarist. Not as good as guys like Steve Vai or Synyster Gates, but pretty damn good. Should I freak out? Of course not!

Some folks get jealous of their betters, and to be quite clear, jealousy not only accomplishes nothing, it makes the jealous person look like an idiot. When I meet someone better than me, I pick their brains. I want to know how they did it.

That’s how you improve, by first knowing what you have to do. Then, by doing the work.

So don’t get jealous. Don’t get discouraged either. Instead, pick their brains. People love to talk about themselves.

It’s an easy way to improve and it works for pretty much everything. That’s how I learned to make my first million. That’s how I learned MMA fighting (by training with real semi-pro fighters). And of course, that’s how I became a pretty good guitarist – by practicing with better guitarists.

Skills all add up

This may sound weird, but the more skills you have, the better. People often will imply that you’re wasting your time if you’re constantly learning new things. I call bullshit!

I’m a pretty good writer. A pretty good public speaker. I’m an intermediate pianist. I know investing quite well.

I’m decent at drawing. I’m excellent on guitar. As for composition, I’ve gotten a lot of compliments. And, I’ve picked up orchestrating pretty fast.

I’m not by any means saying any of this to brag. Rather, I strongly think you should do the same thing. Write down what you’re excellent at. Write down what you’re pretty good at. And write down what you’re mediocre at and wish to improve.

Now, if it’s a skill set you don’t care about, then I will say you’re wasting your time. However, if it’s a skill set you need, you probably should spend some time at it.

“What if I want to be the best?”

Then I say by all means, go for it! Keep in mind, you’re going to have to pass up everyone better than you. I say the way to do it is actually meet everyone better than you, stay on good terms, and pick their brains. Find out how they got to where they did and use that knowledge to your advantage.

If I wanted to be the world’s best guitarist, I’d pick my top ten guitarists and learn how to play their best songs note for note. That’s not my goal though. My guitar is just an instrument I enjoy playing. I love guitar, don’t get me wrong. But my real passion is in composition. I use the guitar to write music.

To be honest, I want to be a great composer. I want to be remembered as the great neo-Romantic composer of my generation. I want to be remembered though as a complete artist – great composer, solid musician, lyricist, writer, and painter.

So if you want to be the best, that would be my advice.

Roman of Astral Eyes

I want to be remembered as a complete artist


Roman is an artist, composer, writer, and travel junkie.

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