There’s no such thing as universal advice

no such thing as universal advice

There really is no such thing as universal advice. Everyone is different, and what works for me may not necessarily work for you. And vice versa.

We’re all different. And that’s a good thing. We want different things out of life, so you have to tailor advice to what people want. That’s yet another reason why I say there’s no such thing as universal advice.

For instance, I write about alphas and betas a lot. As much as I harp on betas, there are betas who are wonderful people, who are not passive aggressive. However, they simply want someone else to lead them, someone else to make decisions for them. They’re totally content with that, and that’s wonderful. It’s not a bad thing because these people aren’t the ones who are sabotaging folks who want to control their own destinies.

In fact, I’m very close friends with several of these people and you know what? They’re some of my biggest supporters! I think that’s fucking great and I love them dearly for it.

Universal advice about health?

Health is one of those weird things. You have one guy who does everything right and he dies of cancer in his 20s. Then, you have Jeanne Calment who lived to be 122 and she smoked! Yes, I know smoking is bad for you. Yet, she outlived everyone. I’m shooting for 100.

So I can write all I want about health and if you’re getting results, and you’re doing something completely different, then stick with it. However, if you’re not getting results, you may want to take what I’m saying very seriously since we already know it works for both me and my wife.

As much as I praise eating meat, we do know some healthy vegans and vegetarians. I also know a shitload of unhealthy vegans and vegetarians, but that’s another story for another day. My whole point is if it’s working for you, then stick with it. If it isn’t working, then you should consider changing your strategy.

Universal advice on love

OK, we know that picking the wrong mate will set your life in the wrong direction. I don’t think anyone would argue that. However, let’s say for argument’s sake that you and I are both heterosexual males. What I find attractive in one woman, you may completely disagree. And that’s great! We’re looking for different things.

Over the weekend, my wife and I went out dancing and met one of my straight single male friends. Unlike me, he doesn’t value money in a long-term relationship. Which is great! More power to him. We’re looking for different things.

He’s a homebody. I’m an adventurer. So of course, I’d rather find a woman who could bring her own money to the table. For him, it’s not even a discussion. He doesn’t care whatsoever as it doesn’t matter.

And that’s what I’m getting at

I don’t believe in universal advice. I hire coaches to improve various aspects of my life. When I’m looking at a coach to hire, I want someone who understands that I’m unique. So are you. You don’t have to listen to the same music I listen to, read the same books I read, or share my religious or political views. I don’t care.

And why am I writing this article? To let you know that not everything I say will work for you. You have to tailor it for yourself and take what you can out of it. If you ever disagree with anything I say, that’s totally fine. We can still be friends. A few things I say may not work for you.

Even when I talked about flipping houses, I tell people that if they don’t have a strong stomach, then they shouldn’t get into flipping houses. So much could go wrong. I know people who are underwater hundreds of thousands of dollars because their timing was off. You really have to know what you’re doing and also have a strong stomach for it.

I’m not saying this to discourage anyone. I’m saying it because too many people who try to sell their investment gimmicks are doing exactly that – they’re trying to sell their investment gimmicks. And they’ll lie to your face in order to make the sale. They’ll tell you “this will work for everyone.”

A lot of these folks lie

No, it won’t. No one system works for everyone. There are exceptions to every rule and that’s yet another reason I have problems with people who deal in absolutes.

So I share my advice because it worked for me in the past. Is it an absolute guarantee to work for you? Well, you may have to tailor a lot of it. You may have to keep some of it and throw out some of it. That’s totally fine and I don’t take offense. You and I are not the same people. We don’t have the same needs and desires.

A pet peeve of mine

And now for a pet peeve. As you know, I’m a musician/composer first. I consider myself an artist and my primary medium is music.

One thing that really annoys me is when another musician or a music fan insists that his way is the correct way and other ways are wrong. That’s one of my biggest pet peeves.

There’s always multiple ways to play things. And whereas one may be more pleasing to my ears, they may not be to yours. And I’m fine with that! I realize that you and I don’t have to have same tastes in art.

I reserve the right to love a piece of art. Or absolutely hate a piece of art. I will not say however that there’s only one way to do something.

And this all ties in with universal advice. As an artist, the way I do it may not necessarily mean that you have to do it exactly how you want to do it. Especially since you and I are different people and have different tastes.


Roman is an artist, composer, writer, and travel junkie.

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