How not to be an incel

how not to be an incel

It’s funny because I went over how not to be an incel before in my 2c on the incel community. But I’m still hearing from tons of incels.

I’ll be more than happy to give advice. For the record, this helps women just as much as it helps men. Probably even more so.

I’ve been hearing from several of my female friends, some of whom are quite attractive, that it’s hard to find a masculine man. Well, I’ll help create more for you then. You’re welcome.

How not to be an incel, bit by bit

The good news, you don’t have to be an incel. The bad news, it’s going to take both time and work. Let’s get started.

Be good at something

I’ve told this to my son when he was young. If you meet a cute girl and she asks you what do you like to do and you look dumbfounded and answer “I don’t know,” that’s more than likely three strikes right there.

What do you like to do? Besides watching TV and playing videogames. Be good at something.

Cute girl – “what do you like to do?”

You – “Well, currently I’m designing a game where the player will have to work more on her intelligence than her quick reflexes. It should be a lot of fun. Has some neat puzzles in it. And I’m working closely with the artist to create a consistent look, which I think you’ll find quite lovely.”

Or, you – “I’m actually a musician. We got several singles out. Give them a listen, and if you like the music, you should come see us. We’re playing Wednesday night at the X club.”

Or, you – “I’m an avid skier. The snow is perfect right now. I’m actually heading out to X this weekend. I go so often that I get everyone I go with huge discounts. You should join me.”

Being good at something takes time, sometimes years. The problem with a lot of incels is they want it now. They think they shouldn’t have to put much work into getting laid, or some even think they deserve it.

The latter end up becoming misogynists and of course the extreme cases become serial rapists. Yet another reason I want to nip this mentality in the bud, before it starts getting dangerous.

Be more masculine

Never ever take life, monetary, or relationship advice from a feminist. Every single time they’ve given me advice, and note, I’ve never even asked for it (they love to shove their opinions down everyone else’s throats), it’s been very bad.

What’s scarier is they get into the education system and poison both little girls and little boys. They have that victim mentality and see the world in terms of us versus them.

So, you’ll never hear them say good things about masculinity. And guess what? The cute girls when they complain to me about men, are always complaining that they want to find a more masculine man. Only the ugly ones are complaining about toxic masculinity.

And yes, it’s every single time without exception.

So how to become more masculine? You can start by cutting soy completely out of your diet, lifting weights, doing cardio twice a week, and focusing on making more money. Those four things should keep you busy for the next two years.

Change your mentality

Nobody owes you a fucking thing. Get that out of your head, and get it out of your head for good.

If you want anything, you’re going to have to work for it. I hate the socialist mentality with a passion because every single one is both lazy and thinks they deserve what other people have.

Yes, some people got lucky. But you know what? Most people who have nice shit worked for it.

So instead, start thinking along the lines of “I’m going to work for it.” That goes for everything from having a great body to having nice shit.

Funny thing, after I made my first million, I still didn’t want nice shit. I don’t have to impress anyone. I don’t have that gene. I’d much rather spend my money on travel. I want to see the world, not get tied down with nice shit.

But that’s just me. If you want a Ferrari, more power to you! Seriously. More power to you. You’re going to have to work for it though.

Learn to speak

Lastly, I actually think this is number one. Humans are social animals. You’ll see some douchebag with a real hot chick. But you know what? Instead of envying the guy, go up and talk to him. I bet he’s a real good communicator.

Speech is powerful. It could get you anywhere from a high paying job to getting beautiful women out of their clothes.

With speaking ability, you become interesting. I’ve met quite a few incels. You know what they all have in common? They’re all socially awkward. Every single one.

There are books on public speaking. There are also classes you could take.

I took three semesters in college. I also forced my son to take Speech in high school. At first, he got really mad. I told him that he didn’t have a choice. After the class, he thanked me.

Of all the high school and college courses, Speech will get you farther than any of them. Like I said, humans are social animals.

Speech is powerful. Donald Trump is the best speaker I’ve ever seen in my life. Bill Clinton is a powerful speaker. JFK was before my time, but I’ve heard both he and his brother were great speakers. Same with Martin Luther King, Jr.

In the last election, politics aside, I’m just talking speaking ability, Trump and Bernie Sanders were by far the best speakers. The Democratic Party made a mistake selecting an inferior speaker to take on Trump.

Now, I hope this doesn’t devolve into a political discussion. I hate politics. I’m just giving an example of the power of speech.

Like I said, speaking ability will make you money. It will get you laid. If you can’t speak, you need to change that.

About the featured image

You absolutely should see Alaska. It is gorgeous. I took this shot from the cruise ship.


Roman is an artist, composer, writer, and travel junkie.

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